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woman of worth 2

20130329_154132Like pebbles on the shore,

Biblical truth can at times go unnoticed.

Stop.

Pick one up and turn it slowly over in your hand.

You will see things of beauty.

Prov. 31: 11– for me a pebble that required a closer look.

“The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain.”

The first time of reading this

I paused

Read again.

Then my brow crinkled and I read yet again

Then again.

And finally I took it to the Lord.

“What does this mean?!”

“Read it again, slowly

Two phrases jump off the page

Safely trust and no lack

And I get it.

The woman of more worth than rubies

Is trustworthy–

She is about caring for others

She puts her husband

Her family

And those around her

In front of her own wishes, desires, needs.

This husband has no lack not because of $,

But because he knows he can trust his wife to be wise, thoughtful, caring.

This woman of worth

 thinks and acts in such a way as to better her family

Unlike the foolish woman of Proverbs 14.

“A wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.” Prov. 14:1

So I reflect:

In what ways am I trustworthy?

How have I broken trust in the past that I might turn away from that?

Where is the brick and mortar that I can build with?

Compassion

Time

Attention to details

Listening and then acting

Prayer

Scripture

Patience

Not just with those around me but with myself

I am not perfect and realize that mistakes are something worth making if I can glean a lesson or a truth from them.

Like the day before Christmas Eve

Our truck dies in front of the bank.

 I was reminded how much I am loved by my father-in-law who drove across town just to help me and the four separate people stopping to see if there was anything that could be done while I waited.

God had allowed this and in it I had a choice

How do I react?

What do I do?

I can safely trust in Him to guide me.

And being led not by emotions but by peace I was able to be joyful and flexible and quick to change

The wisdom gleaned here is that trust can be built

And it is worth the effort.

So as I again reflect on this woman of worth I smile,

Yes,

through the Lord I can be trustworthy,

and through complete trust in Him my family shall have no lack–of peace.

A woman of worth 1

Bethany with kitty“Who can find a virtuous wife?

For her worth is far above rubies.” Proverbs 31:10

As the mother of three daughters I feel responsible to pass along to those behind me in the line called woman, those bits of wisdom I have gleaned from others.

For it is in my heart that my daughters should be the women that God created them to be

Without hindrance from flesh

or the world’s view of what makes a woman.

It is in each of us,

 to be of great worth in the eyes of those we love

First it is Daddy

I watched my little girls

as tiny ones

wheel and twirl to impress their hero: “Daddy”

Then as childhood melts away

they begin to see the eyes of others turn in their direction

They are embarrassed

even shy

but they like the attention

Because in their mind it means they have worth

So I strive to help them

Yes, they have worth

They are precious

to me

and their Daddy

and their extended family

and our friends

But even more than that they have worth to their Heavenly Father who loves them so deeply and calls them so beloved that He sent His Son to die, that they might spend eternity with Him and know Him while on this Earth.

How does this relate to the virtuous wife?

Why would I even look at this verse when teaching my little girls?

Because I too want to be of worth and I feel that Proverbs 31: 10-31 hold a vast wealth of how to be this wonderful woman and it begins right here: women of virtue are rare and worth more than fine jewels.

What is virtue?

goodness

righteousness

integrity

honesty

moral

These things are not suddenly learned when a girl changes from a child to a young lady

They are taught

 and honed

and polished

And the greatest way I have found is

by example

Am I kind?

Thoughtful, selfless, full of integrity, generous, good?

Not always

but I strive to be so

that my daughters too might choose to live a life

of  virtue

Why hold the standard so high?

We live in a broken and crooked world and they will be hurt, wronged,

They may even fall into the pits that litter the path…

That is where grace comes in.

Those are the times when I hold them, pray for them, listen to them

Love them

Because sin hurts

Brokenness is common

Disappointments are many

But the wonderful thing about Jesus

is

He forgives when we ask

He heals when we turn

He restores what is

Stolen

He uses the broken

When we admit the wickedness or bitterness

 held, walked in, entertained

He cleans us

then

we again are able to

be a

woman

of worth.

For it is He that saw the worth in the first place.