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Virtuous wife; A look at Proverbs 31

Proverbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth [is] far above rubies. 

As a woman, this verse can seem a little daunting.

Why is it so difficult to find a virtuous wife?

Does this mean I can’t be one, is it unattainable?

Scripture is always the best place to look for understanding scripture.

And now, my daughter, do not fear. I will do for you all that you request, for all the people of my town know that you are a virtuous woman. Ruth 3:11

Boaz is speaking to Ruth, a Moabitess, who had been widowed. She loved her mother-in-law and the God of her husband’s family so much that she moved to a land she knew she’d be hated, just to help her mother-in-law survive. Her only option to do this was to glean in the fields, dangerous work for any woman, much less for her because of the people she’d been born into.

All of these details don’t seem to make a recipe for a virtuous woman.

Yet, here, Boaz is speaking the same adjective to her that is used in Proverbs 31.

The key is in Ruth’s own words:

Ruth 1:16 NKJV — But Ruth said: “Entreat me not to leave you, Or to turn back from following after you; For wherever you go, I will go; And wherever you lodge, I will lodge; Your people shall be my people, And your God, my God.

Ruth was devoted to Naomi’s God, the only God, thus her life makes sense, because the adjective of virtuous is a response to her devotion.

Proverbs 19:14 Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers,
But a prudent wife is from the LORD.

Both the book of Ruth and this verse from Proverbs makes it clear that the Lord is the reason a woman can and will be a woman of virtue.

It is not an impossible thing, it’s just not common.

For the secular culture paints a very different picture of what a woman should be.

As followers of Christ, our interest should lie in finding out what God’s plan for women is and walking in the guidelines of scripture.

We as women can be virtuous through our walk with Jesus Christ both as women and as wives.

Like Ruth, it begins with total commitment, letting go of anything in our past which doesn’t belong in our relationship with Jesus, and diligently completing the task at hand without complaint or worry over the future.

Because that verse in Proverbs doesn’t end with the question:

“Who can find a virtuous wife?

It ends in establishing something the heart of a woman truly desires, to be cherished.

For her worth [is] far above rubies.”

Dear Lord Jesus,

Thank You for Your Word, for the truth, wisdom and applicable teaching within. Lord, thank You for giving me and other ladies a standard in Your Word to live by, that we might walk with integrity and honor knowing You created us, You know what is best for us, and You are giving us the instruction on how to find worth and value in our actions. Thank You that we are already so precious to You that You left Heaven and lived on Earth to be crucified and rise again to save us. Truly, Your sacrifice shows us just how cherished we are. Lord, let our hearts never forget what a costly price You paid for us. Lord, please help us as women not to get caught up in the world’s standards for, not to be bitter, envious, selfish, crude, filthy, nor seeking the gifts of others, but rather let us be thankful, forgiving, generous, diligent, edifying, respectful, loving, kind, and gentle. Lord, help us to put off the “old flesh” full of the lusts and sin and to put on the “new flesh” which comes through being cleansed by Your blood, washed in Your Word, and a temple of the Holy Spirit. Thank You. Amen.

A woman of worth 1

Bethany with kitty“Who can find a virtuous wife?

For her worth is far above rubies.” Proverbs 31:10

As the mother of three daughters I feel responsible to pass along to those behind me in the line called woman, those bits of wisdom I have gleaned from others.

For it is in my heart that my daughters should be the women that God created them to be

Without hindrance from flesh

or the world’s view of what makes a woman.

It is in each of us,

 to be of great worth in the eyes of those we love

First it is Daddy

I watched my little girls

as tiny ones

wheel and twirl to impress their hero: “Daddy”

Then as childhood melts away

they begin to see the eyes of others turn in their direction

They are embarrassed

even shy

but they like the attention

Because in their mind it means they have worth

So I strive to help them

Yes, they have worth

They are precious

to me

and their Daddy

and their extended family

and our friends

But even more than that they have worth to their Heavenly Father who loves them so deeply and calls them so beloved that He sent His Son to die, that they might spend eternity with Him and know Him while on this Earth.

How does this relate to the virtuous wife?

Why would I even look at this verse when teaching my little girls?

Because I too want to be of worth and I feel that Proverbs 31: 10-31 hold a vast wealth of how to be this wonderful woman and it begins right here: women of virtue are rare and worth more than fine jewels.

What is virtue?






These things are not suddenly learned when a girl changes from a child to a young lady

They are taught

 and honed

and polished

And the greatest way I have found is

by example

Am I kind?

Thoughtful, selfless, full of integrity, generous, good?

Not always

but I strive to be so

that my daughters too might choose to live a life

of  virtue

Why hold the standard so high?

We live in a broken and crooked world and they will be hurt, wronged,

They may even fall into the pits that litter the path…

That is where grace comes in.

Those are the times when I hold them, pray for them, listen to them

Love them

Because sin hurts

Brokenness is common

Disappointments are many

But the wonderful thing about Jesus


He forgives when we ask

He heals when we turn

He restores what is


He uses the broken

When we admit the wickedness or bitterness

 held, walked in, entertained

He cleans us


we again are able to

be a


of worth.

For it is He that saw the worth in the first place.