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Words impact

“It was not so much what grandmother said as how she said it. She made wounds that rankled and festered.” Jane of Lanternhill by L.M. Montgomery

While reading these words the Lord’s truth was revisited.

The seasons of dealing with negative words has taught me how severe an impact words can have.

More than one job I’ve had revolved around dealing with problems.

Which means listening to constant complaints.

At one season the complaints had been so weighty and over bearing the effect was my attitude.

My joy slowly died, like a flowering plant transplanted beneath a thorn bush.

It took the Lord to show me how to manage the constant stream of complaints and not to accept them as personal failure.

And it was reading this book as a grandma which caused me to wonder.

Did Jane’s grandmother really realize how shriveled and barren her relationship with her granddaughter was?

Did she know it was due to her own tongue?

What were the motives behind the tongue whose seeds were sowing discord, pain, and estrangement?

Who else felt the sting of this woman’s impact through her words?

What about mine?

Are my words’ impact for good or bad?

Helpful or harmful?

How do I say things?

Is my attitude, tone, and body language appropriate, kind, loving?

What about when I’m stressed, depressed, hurting, or exhausted?

What’s the impact of my words?

The book of James has such wisdom pointed directly at the tongue:

“For we all stumble in many things. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body. Indeed, we put bits in horses’ mouths that they may obey us, and we turn their whole body. Look also at ships: although they are so large and are driven by fierce winds, they are turned by a very small rudder wherever the pilot desires. Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things. See how great a forest a little fire kindles!”
James 3:2‭-‬5 NKJV

What truth.

One doesn’t have to look far for the smoke or fire from another’s burning words.

But God grants us the ability to tame the tongue.

His Word, as in everything, is my guide.

Ephesians 4:29 has been a memory verse which helps me gage the impact of my words.

“Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.”
Ephesians 4:29 NKJV

Dear Lord Jesus,

Thank You for Your Word. Thank You for the reminder to watch what I say and how I say it. Thank You for holding up Your truth before me that I might see the impact of words. Lord, please continue to hone my character, that even in my words I might shine the light of Your truth.



These are our kids.

I love them deeply.

I pray for them continually.

I thank God for them daily.

And yet even though our oldest is grown and married I still feel a huge responsibility to train, teach, hone, and encourage.

I’m always looking for ways to improve or add or teach.

As an example I’ve been inspired to write Scripture and encouraging quotes on our chalkboard.

As I was searching for quotes I found these:

“My mother was the most beautiful woman I ever saw. All I am I owe to my mother. I attribute all my success in life to the moral, intellectual and physical education I received from her.”
George Washington

“I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life.”

“All that I am,  or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.”
Abraham Lincoln

There were many more which reflected each man’s personal walk with God.

It was obvious they each were men of extreme faith.

The combination of their comments on God and their mothers impacted me.

They inspired me.

Two monumental men who shaped history by their lives were not quiet about their faith or their upbringing.

How seldom do I stop and get even a glimmer of what my efforts in bringing up our children are worth.

Yet, I am so grateful to my own mother and father for raising me.

I needed an extra charge of encouragement as a mom.

Like all mothers I get bogged down with all I don’t do correctly or the things I want to teach but haven’t yet.

These quotes from men of history helped me reflect on the positive impact of a parent.

I want to be that positive person and so does my husband.

So today I’m praising God for 2 mothers I’ve never met.

Two women who raised sons.

I’m certain they had no idea what those boys would grow into.

And I’m following Mrs. Lincoln’s example.

I’m praying for our children everyday,  each one.

I’m leaving the results up to Jesus.

After all it is through the impact He has made that I’m able to impact my children.

Praise God for impact.