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Change in seasons

As the winter begins to give way to spring,

I find myself both looking forward to and mourning the change in season.

No, not from winter to spring.

From one season of life to another.

I’m so thankful and happy that our oldest girl and our youngest girl will be graduating together,

one from University and the other from highschool.

They have worked so hard and I know will continue to do so until they meet their goals.

As we get closer and celebrate the small wins of daily achievements, my emotions are mixed.

It’s the closing of a chapter in each daughter’s life.

It’s the beginning of a new one.

As one season gives way to another,

as my emotions are mixed,

I have comfort in daily walking with Jesus.

Praise the Lord!

Proverbs 22:6 KJV — Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Dear Lord Jesus,

Thank You for all You are doing in the lives of our children who are adults. Thank You for walking with them in all things. Lord, thank You for allowing me to be a part of their lives during this. What a privilege and blessing to support and encourage our adult children. Please teach me how to continue to love and support them in this next season. Help me not to miss the joy as I grieve the change. Lord, every stage of life is a precious gift and I want to cherish each step. Please help me to do so. Lord, keep me from focusing on the wrong things, but to instead focus upon You and Your will. Thank You for Your gift of life and these precious children! May our lives glorify You. Amen.

Rewriting, again

It’s been more than ten years.

This effort to obey, to write, to put in words a story from my heart.

It’s been a reoccurring question.

“When are you going to finish your book?”

Most of the time, the voice was my husband’s.

I’d written.

I’d rewritten.

I even printed it off a few times.

Yet, it never felt right.

Something seemed forced.

Lifeless words, just black lines on white paper.

I’d put it away.

I’d stopped trying.

Until yesterday.

Sis had found a copy on one of her jump drives and enthusiastically given it to me.

“Look what I found! Now you can finish it.”

I thanked her.

And I prayed.

“Lord, it’s been years. I don’t feel able to get this book into shape. I’m afraid to even try again.”

Why did you write it?

“You told me to.”

Who were you writing for?

“Our children, but especially our daughters.”

With the fresh vision and focus, I plugged in the jump drive and settled down to work.

Because writing is work.

I rewrote the first chapter.

I’m going to work on it again.

When I feel chapter one is ready, I’m going to make copies.

Then, I’m going to give them away and ask for comments, corrections, and critiques.

In this way, I am trusting the Lord to fulfill the vision.

Because my very own family, who I’m writing this for, will be a part of the creation.

I’ll be honest.

I’m nervous.

But I trust God.

He will guide and direct.

He always has.

May He be glorified through this effort, no matter how the book turns out.

Times and seasons

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There was a time when I couldn’t imagine the season I find myself in now.

Here sit our daughters, beautiful and far from the tiny stage.

Pigtails, ponies, and footed pjs are all memories.

Instead we have driver’s licenses, school schedules, job opportunities, and adulthood.

(I know only one is an adult but the other 2 are so close behind her!)

I was telling my husband recently how much I still want to teach them.

There’s so many things I want to be sure I’ve shared with them.

There’s so much for them to still learn.

But in this striving I feel the Lord speak.

Rest in My arms as I teach you how to teach them. Let your life be an example instead of your words be overwhelming.

“Yes, Lord.”

Then fear robs my peace with, “You’re not doing it right. You’ve messed it up too many times. They will sin no matter what you say.”

Grrr…

That’s when I return to the Lord and His Word.

“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

I have tried since our oldest daughter was in the womb to figure out how to train our children.

And I can say, I’ve made millions of mistakes.

Yet, the Lord has been so faithful to guide me, even in the moments when I realized I’d failed again.

I’m far from perfect, but I’m so thankful He is.

Jesus has our daughters and our son in His hands.

God has been working from the beginning.

And I can trust Him to continue to work in every aspect each moment.

“Dear Jesus,

Please walk with our children in a personal way. Help them to hear Your voice and to know You personally. Let Your Word reside in their hearts and minds. I’m trusting You to continue to help me train them and for their lives to bring glory to Your name. Thank You so much for our children, how blessed we are to be a part of their lives.”

Lessons from an 8 yr old

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Our family was blessed to add a little girl to our family while her parents were overseas.

As the only girl,
with 3 big brothers,
our house was a unique experience for her.

She reminded me of a few things I haven’t thought of lately.

1.) It’s okay to love pink, play dress up and cuddle dollies.
2.) Words are listened to better when spoken softly.
3.) Sisters are a gift, whether born in your family or friends who love deeply.
4.) Never leave behind the ability to dream of happy endings.
5.) Cinderella is the story of every girl: the desire to be loved for the beauty within,  the need to be cherished and valued. (Which each of us finds in Jesus Christ)
6.) No matter the age, a girl can cheer on her friends and family from the sidelines,  because we don’t always get to play.
7.) When our turn comes to join in,  give it all you have and be glad no matter what the score is.
8.) It’s easier to sleep when you are tucked in with a hug and a prayer.
9.) No matter how special it is to visit others, there’s no substitute for family

Next year all our daughters will be teenagers and this small reminder of little-girlhood has been filled with sweet memories and reminders.

My heart has been encouraged to pray for my family all the more.

To cover the children of our area and the friends of our children.

To pray for the little ones who have been denied the childhood of protection, nurture, and understanding.

And to savoir the beauty
of
being
a
girl.

A woman of worth 1

Bethany with kitty“Who can find a virtuous wife?

For her worth is far above rubies.” Proverbs 31:10

As the mother of three daughters I feel responsible to pass along to those behind me in the line called woman, those bits of wisdom I have gleaned from others.

For it is in my heart that my daughters should be the women that God created them to be

Without hindrance from flesh

or the world’s view of what makes a woman.

It is in each of us,

 to be of great worth in the eyes of those we love

First it is Daddy

I watched my little girls

as tiny ones

wheel and twirl to impress their hero: “Daddy”

Then as childhood melts away

they begin to see the eyes of others turn in their direction

They are embarrassed

even shy

but they like the attention

Because in their mind it means they have worth

So I strive to help them

Yes, they have worth

They are precious

to me

and their Daddy

and their extended family

and our friends

But even more than that they have worth to their Heavenly Father who loves them so deeply and calls them so beloved that He sent His Son to die, that they might spend eternity with Him and know Him while on this Earth.

How does this relate to the virtuous wife?

Why would I even look at this verse when teaching my little girls?

Because I too want to be of worth and I feel that Proverbs 31: 10-31 hold a vast wealth of how to be this wonderful woman and it begins right here: women of virtue are rare and worth more than fine jewels.

What is virtue?

goodness

righteousness

integrity

honesty

moral

These things are not suddenly learned when a girl changes from a child to a young lady

They are taught

 and honed

and polished

And the greatest way I have found is

by example

Am I kind?

Thoughtful, selfless, full of integrity, generous, good?

Not always

but I strive to be so

that my daughters too might choose to live a life

of  virtue

Why hold the standard so high?

We live in a broken and crooked world and they will be hurt, wronged,

They may even fall into the pits that litter the path…

That is where grace comes in.

Those are the times when I hold them, pray for them, listen to them

Love them

Because sin hurts

Brokenness is common

Disappointments are many

But the wonderful thing about Jesus

is

He forgives when we ask

He heals when we turn

He restores what is

Stolen

He uses the broken

When we admit the wickedness or bitterness

 held, walked in, entertained

He cleans us

then

we again are able to

be a

woman

of worth.

For it is He that saw the worth in the first place.