For her worth is far above rubies.” Proverbs 31:10
As the mother of three daughters I feel responsible to pass along to those behind me in the line called woman, those bits of wisdom I have gleaned from others.
For it is in my heart that my daughters should be the women that God created them to be
Without hindrance from flesh
or the world’s view of what makes a woman.
It is in each of us,
to be of great worth in the eyes of those we love
First it is Daddy
I watched my little girls
as tiny ones
wheel and twirl to impress their hero: “Daddy”
Then as childhood melts away
they begin to see the eyes of others turn in their direction
They are embarrassed
but they like the attention
Because in their mind it means they have worth
So I strive to help them
Yes, they have worth
They are precious
and their Daddy
and their extended family
and our friends
But even more than that they have worth to their Heavenly Father who loves them so deeply and calls them so beloved that He sent His Son to die, that they might spend eternity with Him and know Him while on this Earth.
How does this relate to the virtuous wife?
Why would I even look at this verse when teaching my little girls?
Because I too want to be of worth and I feel that Proverbs 31: 10-31 hold a vast wealth of how to be this wonderful woman and it begins right here: women of virtue are rare and worth more than fine jewels.
What is virtue?
These things are not suddenly learned when a girl changes from a child to a young lady
They are taught
And the greatest way I have found is
Am I kind?
Thoughtful, selfless, full of integrity, generous, good?
but I strive to be so
that my daughters too might choose to live a life
Why hold the standard so high?
We live in a broken and crooked world and they will be hurt, wronged,
They may even fall into the pits that litter the path…
That is where grace comes in.
Those are the times when I hold them, pray for them, listen to them
Because sin hurts
Brokenness is common
Disappointments are many
But the wonderful thing about Jesus
He forgives when we ask
He heals when we turn
He restores what is
He uses the broken
When we admit the wickedness or bitterness
held, walked in, entertained
He cleans us
we again are able to
For it is He that saw the worth in the first place.